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Controlling Emotions Helps Children
Although all parents want to raise a child who is temperamental and fun, we often respond to the child's behavior with one share of our own emotion. Actually, by trying to understand what actually happens in the brain of a child when the child is emotionally able to help parents teach children how to control their emotions.

Here are some tips from Dr. Bryson can help you integrate both sides of the brain of your child:
1. Use logic to understand the feelings of the left brain right brain
Say "silent" or "stop crying" is not an effective way to address the child's emotional tsunami. Expect a child to think rationally when emotions are surrounded only be in vain. Instead, try to empathize with your child to accept the feelings of sadness, fear and frustration felt by the child at the time. When the child was more calm, ask what makes it new and have the children tell it upset you.


2. Help your child tells her story
As protective as we can towards the baby, sometimes the child would be a traumatic experience as a teacher scolded, mocked a friend, or lost on the way. These experiences can lead to negative emotions such as sadness, anger or fear. When children have experiences like this, support them by getting your baby to talk. Lure children to talk at first sometimes difficult, but the more a child can pull out his feelings in words, then the child will be calmer.


3. Teach children that these feelings are temporary
Give meaning to your baby that the feelings they are feeling is temporary and not persistent. Teach them that we can not choose what feelings arise in us, but we can decide our reaction to these feelings arise.


4. Learn to apologize to the child
Parents are also human beings who make mistakes. Sometimes we say things that hurt, apply one or not able to control our own emotions. When something like this happens, try talking with your child and do not hesitate to apologize to them if you did make a mistake. Explain the reasons for your actions or why you are angry with the child. By knowing the reasons for your actions, your child can learn from it and better able to understand you as a parent.

5. Remain calm in the face of a child
When the child was crying loudly or having temper tantrums, make sure you can control your own emotions. Whatever the scenario of events, loss of self control when dealing with children who are affected by the emotions are not a good solution. In contrast, children with a calm face without having ignited emotions. The reaction can also help calm your child to calm himself